Lots of young carers feel that it is hard to concentrate and get homework done at home. It’s okay to feel frustrated or annoyed about this situation. Consider other spaces where you could complete your homework that would fit easily into your life. Is there a library or a quiet cafe near your house? Does your school have an after-school homework program? Is there a friend or family member whose home you could go to complete your work? Consider all your options and draw on all the resources you have. If your parents are very supportive of your schoolwork maybe there’s a way they could set up your home that makes it easier for you to work.
Enlist other peoples help, such as your parents and teachers, in solving this problem. Think about what kind of environment you work best in. Do you like it to be silent? Do you like some music, or background noise? Let the people helping you know what kind of space you need for working so they can help you find it or set it up.
Why is life so hard?
Sometimes life deals us some very challenging situations which are beyond our control. It’s okay to feel sad, angry, or frustrated about our circumstances. We may have ways of understanding these situations through spiritual or religious ways of thinking, or we may feel that they are totally unexplainable. Although we may not be able to change our circumstances or understand why they are so difficult, we can take steps to make ourselves feel better. It is important to find moments and sources of love and joy within our situations. Meeting other young carers in similar circumstances can be helpful. We are never alone in the feeling that life is hard and it can be helpful to connect with others who are dealing with the same feelings.
Why does my brother say he misses me even when I leave the house for just one second?
Sometimes young carers have very close relationships with the family member they care for. Your family member may rely on you for certain things and feel anxious or worried when you go out, even for a short time. It may feel both good and empowering to be needed and wanted all the time, but it might also be frustrating or feel restricting. Whatever your feelings are about the situation, it’s good to take care of those feelings by talking to someone you trust or doing something which helps you feel better.
If there are other people in your family who help care, talk to them about your family member’s feelings about going out. You might be able to plan more shared responsibility so your family member doesn’t miss you as much. Keep in mind that you may not be able to change your family member’s feelings about you going out, but if you can strike a balance between caring for your family member and caring for yourself, both of you will feel happier.
What do I do when my sister in inconsolable?
There are lots of different things people do to try and make someone feel better, like giving them a hug or saying some encouraging words. Sometimes the person we are caring for needs different things at different times to make them feel better, and what might work one time might not work another time. It can be hard trying to figure out what you should do. Sometimes the best thing is to ask the person what would make them feel better. If the person cannot speak to tell you what they need, listen to their body language, actions, and facial expression as best you can. Remember though, it’s not our job to change the way someone is feeling and it’s not our fault that they are feeling bad. Sometimes there is nothing we can do to change how a person feels, and it’s okay to feel frustrated or upset that you can’t change it. What is really great, is that your family member knows you care! You can be very proud of the fact that you tried to make them feel better and that is a wonderful thing all on its own!
Written by Anna Tennent- Riddell
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